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Ahhh! I’ve been so busy…

Sunday, May 23rd, 2010 at 3:26 am

Apologies for the lack of updates and generally laziness of my posts. Real life has been getting in the way quite a bit…

Two weekends ago, I went to see Iron Man…also had a wedding the next day. Very fun but exhausting.

Last weekend I went to Yorkdale as well to shop for some dragon boating clothes, also went out for ribs
for Kevin’s birthday…played some Poker…. Thursday, went dragon boating…was out all day, most tiring day ever…until Friday where I was still recovering from Thursday. On Friday (yesterday), I went to get my 5 dwarf hamsters after work. Didn’t I get those already you ask? Actually…when I wrote in Facebook and/or twittter that I was going to get them, over a week ago…some complications came up and I didn’t get them. But I lied to everyone and said I did, rather than have the complicated discussion and explanation. It was a good decision considering my laziness and not wanting to explain an unnecessary situation. Anyways, yesterday after work, I got my FIVE (!) dwarf hamsters…they’re uber cute, I wish you could play with them…they’re so much fun! Yesterday night at around 10, I also drove to Colossus (400 & 7) and watched How to Train your Dragon in 3D. It was great…definitely worth seeing. Very happy I saw it. Today..woke up at 4pm >_< Had a Jamaican themed party to go to for 4pm too…but it’s okay, I got there at 6:30 ish but it was still a decent time…brought my 2 nerf guns that I bought in christmas…me and my friends played “catch the bullet” and “shoot the dart at the beer bottle” and “run into the neighbours yard to get darts we misfired”. We also played poker and…I won! I was quite happy…beat 5 other people…so a nice $25 for me! The rest of this weekend is partial relax, partial work from home (ugh!), partial clean condo. Work’s going to be crazy this week and next…not looking forward to that! Friday this week, going to a Frankenstein play. It’s 2 hours…kinda exciting, I can’t say I really know Frankenstein’s origin so it might be nice to see an interpretation on it. Saturday, going to Anime North! Between work, Z, friends, birthdays, life, hamsters…I’m pretty damn exhausted. Definitely no time to work on my site, watch shows, and blog. Kinda sucks but having a social/interesting life isn’t a bad thing either. I’m aching to work on my site again but I just can’t from sheer exhaustion. Which again, isn’t a bad thing…I’m quite happy my life’s been busy. This month, I’ve basically been busy 4 weekends in a row. If you know me at all, I prefer my weekends to be straight relaxing. Just me at home all day, recharging…doing introverted stuff. Social Warren isn’t natural and I’m so exhausted with life right now…I wish I didn’t have so many plans…BUT…I wouldn’t have traded these last 3 weekends for anything. They’ve definitely been fun. Time to sleep…tomorrow I plan to upload some hamster stuff either to youtube, my site, facebook…i dunno! /sleep

Zoning out in deep thought

Wednesday, May 19th, 2010 at 5:49 pm

I love the feeling of zoning out in deep thought. Today, on my walk home…I sort of just…realized where I was suddenly. And I realized I didn’t remember walking there, the sights I had seen for the last few minutes, I couldn’t remember what I was thinking about even…I WAS thinking about something, but I just sort of…zoned out for a few minutes. It happens quite easily when I drive too. But it’s strange, your body/natural reflexes still notice everything. I stop for stop signs, red lights, I go on greens, I watch the cars…but it’s all unconscious…or subconscious? Like, I can drive for 5 or 10 minutes…drive completely safe, obey the laws, watch out for danger…but not remember doing it because my mind is elsewhere…zoned out.

I’m sure everyone’s experienced this as well…well, I would assume. Obviously not if you’re a new driver…for example, when I first started driving, I couldn’t listen to the radio or have people talk in my car, I got distracted and couldn’t focus so well on driving. Mind you, this is like, right when I started driving. But now, driving is the unconscious part…and my focus is elsewhere, on a conversation or the lyrics to a song…

I really get my best thinking done in the car when I’m alone or when I’m walking alone or lying in my bed alone. I guess there’s nothing else you can do except be with your thoughts…and you can’t be with your thoughts when others are around.

I imagine this zoning out would be how iGo players play. They sort of…zone out in deep thought/contemplation. I could never do it, although I enjoy deep thought, I think I have some kind of short-term memory issue or ADD, sometimes I lose track of what I was thinking/talking about mid sentence. If you know me at all, you’ve probably noticed I’ll talk about something…pause, and then say “….what was I talking about?”. It’s rather annoying. Faulty wiring in my brain. Electric signals/impulses don’t make it to my brain. Which might be true because those same signals often misfire which, from a..physiological (?) standpoint, cause symptoms of OCD.

Hmm, I think this topic has been covered in a previous blog post O_O but I don’t remember which one. I often tell the same stories…like, I can’t remember if I’ve said something before. Like, I really get my best thinking done in the car when I’m alone or when I’m walking alone or lying in my bed alone. If you didn’t see wat i did thar, then maybe you have a short term memory problem. Or you didn’t completely read my post and just skimmed it. It’s okay, I forgives you.

What was I talking about again? (hah! c wat i did thar again!?) Writing is fun.

Do you people zone out when you do certain things? It really mostly only happens when I walk or drive. Does it happen for you guys/girls in other situations?

The new, new me…is reverting back the old me.

Wednesday, May 19th, 2010 at 1:23 am

There are been some significant changes in myself the last few weeks.

I’m noticing:
1. I’m blogging less. I mean, the number of posts is still high, but the content is a lot less, the topics a lot less insightful.
2. I’m on twitter less. I check it less, I tweet less.
3. I haven’t really worked on my website since after I updated my resume.
4. I also haven’t started watching a new show since Burn Notice, which was when I last worked on my site/updated my resume. I think watching stuff and working on my site is co-related. I don’t think I ever worked on my site when I wasn’t watching something so by not watching anything, I’m also not working on my site.
5. I’m actually watching stuff…but it’s re-watching anime, and I need my eyes for that so I can’t work on my site.
6. I’m alone with my thoughts less than before. I get some great thinking done when I’m alone…but I’m rarely alone nowadays. I’m either surrounded by co-workers or with Z. And I can’t think when I’m at work because Office Warren doesn’t let Real Warren’s thoughts in. Even now, I write this post and my last while Z is sleeping. Had she not been sleeping, I doubt I’d be writing.
7. I’m falling behind on my shows. Part of the reason is that I can’t download freely anymore because I tend do download when I’m at home but half of the nights I’m at home, Z’s playing WoW.
8. Yesterday night was the first good sleep I had in over 3 weeks. I’m tired and irritable. Starting to feel the “I hate my life. I hate my life.” words running through my head.
9. Is one before 10.
10. I don’t have anything more to say…clearly.

What do me, Dexter, and Sai have in common?

Tuesday, May 18th, 2010 at 9:55 pm

You know when Dexter has those moments where he narrates what he’s thinking…asking himself how to react in certain situations or what face to display…sometimes I ask myself the exact same things in my head IRL (in real life).

Perhaps somewhat complimentary to my lack of empathy, I find that sometimes someone will say something and I won’t know what face to react with. I ask myself: Do I smile? Do I give a concerned look? Where are they going with this? It’s not a natural reaction…sometimes I just have problems reading people even when they’re not trying to hide things. I think I’m better at reading subtle things, a smirk, a glance, a comment…but when someone waves a flag infront of me, I miss it. For example, my gaydar. I’m totally oblivious to such obvious things. But I might sense someone likes someone else by a slight hesitation or a glance.

There was this teacher I was talking to once….and she was telling me a story of how her student’s mom hugged her and thanked her for teaching the student to read. Touching right? I mean…my reaction was supposed to be “wow, that’s so sweet…that really touches your heart” but my actual reaction was a puzzled, perplexed look. “Why would she hug you? That’s weird” I thought to myself. Obviously, I had missed the whole point or aspect of the story she was telling. I just couldn’t feel that emotion…

It’s weird…I’m not very emotional in real life. I don’t know what it is…if I try not to let things in or if I just feel this empty void in my soul. A lot of the time, I act how I believe I should act. I smile because I think I should smile. But my emotions are very…dull in real life. However, I get pretty emotional when I watch stuff…I can get really emotional if something hits the right spot. There’s a scene in Gundam Seed where Cagalli thinks Athrun killed Kira (between eps 26-30). Cagalli’s really pissed and then Athrun admits that he knew Kira and doesn’t know why he did what he did…there are tears streaming down both their faces. When I watch that scene, I FEEL Athrun’s conflicted emotions…his sadness and confusion. It really hits that spot for me. That’s just an example…I really feel this…sadness…but it’s a feeling I don’t really get in real life. I guess that’s a good thing?

Anyways…back to Dexter…he’s able to pull off fooling people with his fake emotions. And so am I. While that character is fictional and definitely more devoid of emotion than I, I do sort of relate to his thought process sometimes. I dunno, my natural fake reaction is to react with a smile…it’s kinda weird, I do find I’m smiling when I hear totally unsmilable news. That either makes me look creepy or like an ass. I’ll have to watch out for that.

When I was re-reading Naruto Part 2 a month ago…I was reading about Sai’s character, whom I originally heavily disliked. But then he started talking about his lack of emotion, not knowing how to react to things, and he started showing his fake smile…and I started feeling like I could relate to him. Then, he stopped being so bad…

From a “Warren in society” POV, it’s probably not a good thing that I’m relating to Dexter and Sai…but it’s okay, no one reads this blog anyways :)

One of the worst things I’ve ever done…

Wednesday, May 12th, 2010 at 2:31 pm

It was grade 5 or 6…and I was collecting money for Jump Rope for Heart. I went around my neighbourhood collecting money. I had raised about $60 from strangers for this good cause. And…well, I kept it. Again, I was young and stupid…money was hard to come by at that age and I didn’t have any real sense of a dollar. For me, having like, $10 was awesome. There was so much you could do and buy with that. Having $60 was…well, that opportunity wouldn’t come around again for a long time. Not to justify or rationalize it now but that IS what I was thinking back then. It made sense…and I didn’t really feel bad about it. Back then. It was selfish and maybe even then, I had a lack of empathy, I didn’t really feel bad for the people I stole from. I mean, they didn’t know…they felt good for donating.

I knew it was stealing back then but I did rationalize it. But it was blatant stealing. Stealing from strangers and depriving a good cause of money and support. As an adult, anytime people are raising money for things…well, specifically Jump Rope for Heart, I’m reminded of this young, stupid child I used to be. I’ve had a lifetime of guilt over what I did…when people are raising money for Jump Rope for Heart, I generally donate more than I usually would. I know I’ve donated well over that $60 I stole but I still feel guilty. I doubt this guilt will ever go away. Throwing money at the problem doesn’t seem to work…a guilty conscience is/was not worth the $60.